solarcat:

ineptshieldmaid:

magickedteacup:

curlicuecal:

deathcomes4u:

greenjudy:

joebidenfanclub:

it seems so strange to me that the only people it is socially acceptable to live with (once you reach a certain stage in life) are sexual partners? like why can’t i live with my best friend? why can’t i raise a child with them? why do i need to have sex with someone in order to live with them? why do we put certain relationships on a pedestal? why don’t we value non-sexual relationships enough? why do life partners always have to be sexual partners?

My grandmother and grandfather more or less adopted my grandmother’s best friend back in the 50s. After my grandfather died (before I was born, back in 1968 or so) they continued to keep house together, platonic best friends, and they hung together until they died, a few months apart, in 2007.

It’s quite recently, as far as I can tell, that living arrangements like that have stopped being regarded as normal.

It’s absolutely a new thing to find this stuff weird, and it has a lot to do with media pretending that the nuclear family and marriage are the only reasons to live with other people.

I’ve lived in a 3 adult household my whole life. My parents and their best friend. This was never weird to me, even though everyone my age thought it was because the media never portrayed these kinds of housing arrangements. As far as i was concerned, I just had an extra non-blood parent.

According to my parents, it was very common in the 70′s-80′s to buy houses with your friends, because it was financially smart to do so (so long as you were certain they were close friends who wouldn’t fall out with you and fuck everything up). Houses and house payments are much more manageable when you split the bills 3-4 ways instead of just two.

Millenials aren’t the first to think it’s a great idea to just shack up with friends. That’s housemating without the hastle of living with strangers. It’s still a good idea to shack up with people you’ve known a long time so you know how you’ll get on living together, but still. In the current economy, it’s pretty much now our only option for affording anything.

I think, and I’m not researched on this, but I think conservatives probably tried to suppress images of non-nuclear families because they likely thought it would encourage ideas of polygamy, polyamory, open sexual relationships with or without marriage, as well as other relationship types they thought of as un-christian or unsavoury. I could be wrong, but that shit wouldn’t surprise me.

(And i want to make a note that there’s also a disturbing amount of asexual denial around that makes people go ‘if they’re living together they HAVE to be banging because why wouldn’t they?’ and that shit both creeps me out and annoys me no end. People can be in relationships without sex. People can live together without sex. Sex is not the be-all and end-all and people being taught to think it is really need to stop).

Don’t let the media fool you into believing you can only live with a sexual partner or blood family. Someone somewhere has an agenda for making these seem abnormal, when really it’s just practical.

A lot of people acted like it was super weird when two of my brothers decided to move states with me when I started my postdoc. I got really used to giving a little canned speech about it because it seemed to bewilder people so much. (Their leases happened to be up! We could share rent! They wanted to try somewhere new!)

The notable exception was my grandma, who was just like, “oh, yes, when we were young my sister and I decided to move cross-country together and it was lovely.”

More of this kind of thing for everyone, pls.

The implication that close sibling relationships must also be a warning sign for incest also peeves me off; what kind of society are we living in anyway

#my mom’s a historian#does a lot of research#one of the main takeaways from the census data of literally every US census since the beginning#is that the nuclear family has never been the actual norm#nobody really ever lived like that#and a lot don’t now#and it’s clearly artificial and not ideal for most people#every household in the census had at least a grandma#usually a cousin#some rando#someone living in the house who wasn’t mom or dad or kid#always someone#usually several someones#some uncles etc.#unmarried aunties#that sort of person#but often unrelated friends#we’ve never really lived alone#that’s not how families work#that’s not how humans work  

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Having a multi-adult household unit also just makes a shit-ton of sense, tbh. Much easier to split not only the bills, but also the housework and child-rearing responsibilities. Communal living ftw.

*someone adopt me, please????????????*

archangelgabriellives:

archpagan:

I’m playing with a head canon, tell me if it’s dumb.

I’ve been seeing a lot of beautiful Baby!Gabriel art–back in Heaven, sometimes with Chuck–and I like to think that when God was creating the Archangels, he made Michael, Lucifer, and Raphael in His image–that is, adults. But then He got to Gabriel, and he paused…

This is when he had the idea for children. For growth and nurturing. it was one of the seeds for His creation of humanity. And so, he created a baby. Little baby Archangel Gabriel. 

That’s a part of the reason Gabriel loves and understands humans the way he does; he was raised like one of them.

Oh my god that’s beautiful and I accept it

@ladylilithprime @theriverscribe @talkingtomyselfagain @thequeervet @whinywingedwinchester @hyrulehearts1123 @dreamhunter-trash @sageclover61 @altyex

dragontatoes:

If your concept of asexuals is “they don’t like sex”, you have fundamentally misunderstood us.
If your concept of asexual pride is celibate supremacy, you have fundamentally misunderstood us.
If your concept of aphobia is harmless nitpicking over whether we get to go to gay bars, you have fundamentally misunderstood us.

You can spend your whole life pretending we showed up in 2014 to complain about sex positivity, hate lesbians, or WHATEVER you think it is we do, but the fact is that we have been mistreated for as long as anybody that isn’t cisgendered, heterosexual, and heteroromantic. Hating us isn’t radical, it’s not harmless, and you don’t have the right to do it just because you’re a minority too.

#GISHTHEWORLD

Now accepting citizenship requests!!

tchalisew:

southernbitchface:

m–ood:

A very curious octopus.

Watch this and be blessed

“Why he smoosh my head??? Wait smoosh my head again.”

He ish sooooo cuuuuuuuute!!!!!!