Welcome Back….and…My most recent obsession


Hi! ¬†So…posts have been…well..non-existent…and while there are five thousand other things I ought to be doing…I thought, gosh, lemme start my blog back up again…much better then the (very long) list of things I’m supposed to accomplish…

I’m also going to try to post at least once a month…that seems like a reasonable amount of time…and should ensure I have something to talk about (rather important when writing a blog…)

Has been Doctor Who….

I recently watched all of the “New Who” and got totally (re)obsessed with David Tennant…

I mean, how could you not???

In any case, I’m so obsessed…that I decided that when I go to NYCC in October I’m going to cosplay as the 10th doctor…which has caused me to spend a whole bunch of money that..well..really I shouldn’t…but still…I hope it comes out well..

Anyway, training update…

In April 2015 I tested for, and received my karate black belt…it was insane..but I did itūüėÄ ¬†

As a result of my focus on my black belt training, I had minimized my BJJ training…and I haven’t gotten really back into it…so that needs to be my next goal…get back into it…

Anyways…until next time…

I strongly dislike (socializing at) parties.


Especially when I don’t really know anyone. My brother is hosting a Christmas party for his horse riding friends, and I am there also.¬† I have met some of his horse friends, but I am very introverted,¬† so at a party such as this, I am not very socialable.¬† And not that I am not enjoying myself, but there is a (very low) limit on small talk I can stand.¬† And people tend to assume if¬†you are quiet, you are not having fun.

So I eat, instead.¬† I can’t be expected to socialize if I am busy stuffing my face.

And that’s why I don’t like (socializing at) parties.

2 years of Max Fitness, Part 2!


My fitness class is divided into 10 week sessions. ¬†At the beginning and end of each session you take a picture. ¬†And apparently pictures are worth a lot of words, so….

I started in November of 2012, although I didn’t take my first picture until my first official 10 week session, from Jan-Apr 2013:

1 Max January-April 2013 Challenge

 My second 10 week session, from Apr-Jun 2013:

2 Max April-June 2013 Challenge

My third 10 week session, from Jun-Aug 2013:

3 Max June-August 2013 Challenge

My fourth 10 week session from Sept-Nov 2013:

4 Max September to November

My fifth 10 week session, from Jan-Apr 2014

5 Max January-April 2014 Challenge

And then…I lost motivation..and although I attended classes sporadically, I never took an after picture for the April-June 2014 challenge….

So anywho….next up, is Session¬†# 6, June-Aug 2014, with a brand new before picture!

6 Max June-August 2014 Challenge

And finally (phew) Session # 7…which just finished last week. ¬†Last week was also my 2 year anniversary, as it were…as I started the program on November 12th. ¬†Yup. ¬†I looked it up. ¬†Crazy? ¬†Yup.

7 Max September-November 2014 Challenge

Anywho…I also believe that there are some things that can’t be seen in a picture..how I feel when I can walk up stairs without being winded…or when I can pick my 4 year old niece up over my head to give her a ride on my shoulders…or when we do planks in karate class and everyone groans and I’m like, yay, I got this!…or the first time I did pushups not on my knees…or the confidence I have gained regarding my body…none of those things show up in the pictures…but they are true just the same. ¬†:D

2 Years of Max Fitness


Two years ago, my karate school started hosting a fitness and nutrition program called The¬†Max Challenge. ¬†If you are interested, click here for a list of locations. ¬†They are mostly concentrated in Central NJ, but also have locations in Staten Island, NY and recently opened two locations in California. ¬†I knew I needed to supplement my martial arts training with additional work at home, but I honestly just didn’t have the willpower to do so. ¬†I don’t actually like exercise. ¬†Especially not for exercise’s sake. ¬†I have stuck with martial arts because in addition to exercise, I also have met friends and am learning a skill. ¬†Both of these are super important. ¬†I started martial arts right after I moved to the area, and I didn’t really know anyone. ¬†I figured a good martial arts school would be a great place to get to know people, and I have made some really important friendships along the way! ¬†And I LOVE learning. ¬†If I could become a professional student, I would. ¬†I like learning new things, and this has kept me committed to my training along the way.

In any case, I saw the addition of this program as the answer to my lack of motivation. And it very much has been.  When I started the program, I was using 5 and 8 lb weights.  When I gained a little confidence, I was using 8 and 10 lb weights.  Now I use 12 and 15 lb weights, and can use 20 lb weighs for certain exercises, such as a deadlift of chest presses.  I have seen an amazing increase in my cardio, and I have gone down a pant size and a half.  None of which is any kind of miracle story, but all are steps in the right direction towards being more healthy.

Now that I am (hopefully) nearing my black belt test (for my martial arts class, NOT my BJJ class), which, if I work hard and am dedicated, might be as soon as April 2015 (pleasepleaseplease) I want to¬†find some way to renew my inital enthusiasm for the program. ¬†I love the people I work out with, and the instructors, I just have to fight really hard to get out of bed at 4:30 am, 5 days a week, to work out. ¬†And if anything, now is when I should be the most dedicated, as my goal is (again, hopefully) almost within sight. ¬†It is definitely one of those cases where when I go I am glad I went, but I don’t realize that until I get there…and 2 or 3¬†days a week my bed is just so warm and comfy, and I fail to get out of bed on time. ¬†Has anyone out there had to renew their enthusiasm for something? ¬†Any pointers?

And my negotiation was for nothing…


So, after playing mediator for an hour or so last Saturday, my father calls me on Sunday and is like, “no, this isn’t going to work, and this is why, even though it is blatantly obviously that I am lying to stall the process.” ¬†Basically, he claimed he can’t put up the money to get my mother out of the house until we sell the property they are currently on, which ISN’T TRUE! ¬†I’m pretty sure our ACCOUNTANT, a friend of the family, who talked this over with my father, and then spoke to me, would know that the money existed. ¬†Grr. ¬†Lots and lots of grr. ¬†So now I’m not sure what I am going to do. ¬†I was so mad on Sunday, I seriously wanted a drink. ¬†Which is not in my personality, I usually only drink during holidays or with friends…basically a social drinker. ¬†So instead, I called my good friend and asked if I could come visit…her children, my “niece” and “nephew”, make everything better. ¬†So I went over their house Sunday night, played with the munchkins, talked to my friend, and felt a little less like someone tipped my world over. ¬†I had rough week as a result, because I didn’t have any of my stuff prepped for the week. ¬†Uggh. ¬†I kinda felt like I just waded through last week and did emergency triage as things came up. ¬†As a result, neither my nutrition nor my exercise was particularly up to snuff. ¬†Hopefully this week will be better. ¬†Some time this week I hope to call or email the accountant and see what our next steps could be. ¬†Yuk.

I need a degree in negotiation


OMG.  Holy negotiating.

So, we are trying to get my parents to move off the property they are living on.¬† There are two houses and 4 acres….and my parents are elderly.¬† It is further complicated by…well a billion things, which I’m not really ready to share in a public forum at this time.

In any case, I am visiting the family this weekend (I live an hour and a half away from my parents and brother), and this morning my brother also came over to hang out for a while (he lives about 15 minutes from my parents) when my father walked in the house.  I capitalized on all 4 of us being in the house at the same time to start the conversation.

Oh boy.  Needless to say, I officially think I deserve an award for my negotiating skills.  Just saying.

Woah, it’s been a year since I posted!


Hi!  Is there anyone out there?

I have to be honest, I had completely forgotten about my blog, until last week someone commented on one of my posts and I received an email notification.¬† Oh yea, that blog I used to write…so I approved the comment and then I promptly forgot again.¬† Then this morning, as I lay in bed, enjoying sleeping in (I am a teacher in NJ and we have off this Thursday and Friday for a teacher’s convention) I came across a blog for a writer that I really like and wanted to follow.

Since the end of Google Reader I haven’t really been reading a whole lot of blogs…but then I remembered that Word Press had a way to add blogs you followed, even non-Word Press blogs.¬† So…..I dug through the dusty remains of my memory to find my username and password and sign myself in.¬† *sneeze*¬† There is a lot of dust in there!

As I scrolled through the sites I have subscribed to (but haven’t read in a year or more), I remembered why I started blogging in the first place:¬† To find more female BJJ people.¬† Because I was concerned about doing BJJ, a typically male sport, and I was a girl.¬† Was there something wrong with me?¬† And, I was greatly relieved to find this giant community of female BJJ bloggers out there that let me know I was not alone.

In the past year, I’ve gone through a bunch of life changes.¬† (I know, this is out of left field, but if you are still with me, I promise it connects.¬† Eventually.)¬† I was accepted to a science teacher fellowship program for “teacher leaders.”¬† I made a huge decision to stop teaching the marching band I have taught as my side job for the past 10 years so I can have more time for my niece, nephew, and training. (Time is more precious then money.¬† Lesson Learned). I received my advanced brown belt in my karate classes, and I am hoping to be able to test for my black belt April 2015.¬† There has been an ongoing fight in my family to get my parents to move into a smaller, more manageable property (they currently live on 4 acres of land, and are 84 and 78, respectively).

There are a lot of things occuring that I would benefit from reflecting on and sharing with others to help gain perspective.  And maybe there is something I am going through that might help someone else know they are not alone. (See, I told you to hang in there!)

So, I am making a resolution to get back into blogging.¬† I really enjoyed it when I was posting on a regular basis, and I think that now is a good time for me to get back into the swing of things.¬† So I am putting “write blog post” in my Any.do calender, and see what happens.¬† Yay!

See You Soon!